Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Joy Villa's Pro-Life Dress


At Sunday night's Grammy Awards, singer Joy Villa walked the red carpet wearing a white dress with what appears to be an unborn baby in a rainbow-colored womb while carrying a purse with the words "Choose Life" painted on it. Many people were shocked by this display, not just because it's rare to see in Hollywood, but because Villa is a Scientologist.
According to Scientology.org, this so-called "church" leaves matters of family planning up to individuals and doesn't advocate abortion. However, one former member said in Leah Remini's documentary on the cult that she, and other women, were forced to have abortions and "were met with grave consequences if they refused" because "leaders feared pregnancies meant women were trying to leave the church (source)."
For all we know, Villa herself may actually be pro-life. Unless you know her personally, you really can't judge, not that anyone should be judging anyone anyway. Let's just appreciate the fact that someone in Hollywood stood up and made a bold pro-life statement. Who knows? Maybe someone considering abortion saw that dress and changed her mind. Even the smallest of signs can change a heart.

Sunday, January 21, 2018

The Women's March: Hypocrisy at its Finest

Just one day after the 45th annual March for Life, Washington, D.C., and several other cities around the country, hosted the 2nd annual Women's March. This event started last year to protest the election of Donald Trump as the 45th president of the United States. Last year's march seemed to be a vulgar, emotional display of liberal craziness, from Madonna threatening to blow up the White House to participants wearing hats and costumes resembling female genitalia to show that women are more than their genitals. I know, it didn't make sense to me either.
From what I've seen so far, it seems that this year the Women's March dialed down a little bit compared to last year, although some have reported seeing the genitalia hats again. However, the march doesn't seem to have gotten any less hypocritical and nonsensical. Don't understand what I mean by that? Let me break it down.
Reasons
In order for a march/protest to be effective and taken seriously, it helps if you have a solid, unified purpose. The March for Life clearly demonstrates their purpose of believing in life for all from conception to natural death. The Women's March, however, greatly fails in this regard. A lot of their participants don't really seem to know why they're there or what exactly they're protesting. The ones that do have a reason for being there all have a different reason.
Children
In college, I always went with my school to the March for Life. When I came back, I always liked scrolling through social media to see other people's/group's photos and stories from their experience at the march. Of course, while scrolling through March for Life related posts, I'd always stumble upon those that were bashing it. There always seemed to be a handful of people who would post photos of children holding signs at the March for Life and go off about how horrible and disgusting it was that parents brought their kids to the march and had them hold signs when they didn't even know what they were protesting. Then, this Women's March came about and people starting posting pictures of children holding signs and applauding them for standing up for themselves, their sisters, and/or their future. Double standards much?
Trump
One of the myriad of reasons people have given for participating in the Women's March has been protesting Trump, his policies, and the way he talks about women (more on that in a minute). Yet, at the same time, they're carrying and/or posting photos of signs that read "you're so vain, you probably think this march is about you." If one of your reasons for being at the march is to protest Trump, then yes, the march is kind of about him.
Back on the language topic, if you're upset by the offensive way Trump has talked about women in the past, I better not see you reading or watching anything in the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise. You can't be offended when guys treat women like objects while simultaneously perpetuating that culture by buying into work that encourages it.
Counter-Protesters
I almost always saw counter-protesters at the March for Life, and everyone seemed to just mind their business and ignore them. From what I've heard, the Women's March isn't exactly cool with people who don't have liberal agendas attending the march. At last year's march, a former Planned Parenthood worker who is now a pro-life advocate, Abby Johnson, first had difficulty having her organization be accepted to participate in the march, and then was tackled by protesters at the actual march...and she was visibly pregnant with twins at the time. That's definitely not okay.

There are so many other things that bother me about the Women's March, but I don't have the time to write them all here, and I'm sure you don't want to spend all day reading a single blog post. I just think it's important to really consider these kinds of things before deciding to support this "movement."

Saturday, January 20, 2018

Love, Friendship, and Bad Ass Women: A Review of Rebel Belle

One thing you guys may not know about me is that I love to read. Mostly, I read young adult fiction, such as the work of John Green, but I also pick up the occasional fantasy series, this started with Chris Colfer's Land of Stories series. My last semester of college, a friend of mine posted on Facebook that her sister had passed on several books to her and she was looking for a good home for them. The one that caught my eye was Rebel Belle by Rachel Hawkins. She gave it to me, and I was instantly hooked. I later discovered that there were two sequels, one of which I found in a used bookstore, the other my brother gave me for Christmas.
The Rebel Belle trilogy is not your average young adult series or your average fantasy series. There's a little bit of everything and there's something for everyone.
Do you like stories about bad ass girls kicking butt and taking names? Read Rebel Belle.
Do you like teen love stories? Read Rebel Belle.
Do you like fantasy novels about magic and mischief? Read Rebel Belle.
Do you like drama and cliff hangers? Read Rebel Belle.
Trust me on this. These books are AMAZING! I would especially recommend them to those of you who complain about the lack of female heroes in books. Harper Price and her best friend, Bee Franklin, are just the heroes you've been waiting for.
Order Rebel BelleMiss Mayhem, and Lady Renegades from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or your local bookstore!

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

The Importance of Reaching Out

Recently, a young lady that I went to school with passed away after a drug overdose. I didn't know this girl very well, but I know she was sweet, bright, and passionate. We were all absolutely devastated to receive this terrible news.
As I let the news sink in, it occurred to me that, in a meeting with my adviser when I was still in college, this girl's name came up. She hadn't been coming to class and we were wondering why. My adviser suggested I get on Facebook and reach out to her, maybe I could find out what was up and see if she was okay.
Like I said, I didn't know her well, we weren't friends on any social media platforms, so I never reached out.
When that thought hit me, I was also hit with a wave of guilt. I sat there thinking, I should've just reached out to her when I had the chance. What if that could've made a difference?
Now, I know that addiction and mental illness are things that are much bigger than any one person. No one person is to blame for what happens to those who are struggling. Everything happens for a reason.
I did learn something from this. When you sense someone is struggling, even if you know there's probably not much you can do, you should still reach out. Maybe what they need is a little extra love and encouragement. If you are struggling yourself, reach out. Find someone you trust, contact one of the many crisis chat/text lines, call the suicide hotline. You can even email me.I know how hard it is to reach out and ask for help, but you'll thank yourself later.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Website: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
Drug Abuse Hotline: 1-877-990-7370
Website: https://drugabuse.com/library/drug-abuse-hotlines/
As always, if you believe you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911.

Friday, January 12, 2018

Hollywood Hypocrisy Part 2: Award Shows and Sex

Read Hollywood Hypocrisy Part 1 here.
(Photo source: https://www.surreynowleader.com/entertainment/timesup-stars-don-all-black-on-the-golden-globes-red-carpet/)
The Golden Globes, a lovely little award show where Hollywood's biggest stars get all dressed up and gather to celebrate each other, themselves, and all of their hard work. It's glamorous and fun...well it was, until they turned it into a political spectacle.
On this year's Golden Globes many stars in attendance wore black to protest all the sexual harassment/assault that has recently been brought to light in Hollywood. Many others took to Instagram and Twitter to post selfies with #TimesUp and #WhyWeWearBlack. Protesting sexual abuse and harassment is definitely a good thing to do, don't get me wrong. However, this whole thing seems rather hypocritical for multiple reasons.
1. Someone had to have known. Many of the stars who wore black to the Golden Globes, such as Oprah and Meryl Streep, worked closely with Harvey Weinstein, one of the many accused Hollywood sexual abusers, for years. There's no way they were completely unaware of what was happening, and yet they were silent.
2. Fifty Shades Freed. The latest movie in the Fifty Shades franchise comes out in about a month. Countless women, many of which may have posted #TimesUp selfies, will flock to movie theaters everywhere to see the newest film in this borderline-pornographic series.
3. Hollywood created this culture. For decades, Hollywood has condoned and encouraged sexually deviant behavior, and the Fifty Shades franchise is only one example among countless others. In music, movies, television, and other forms of media, we are constantly bombarded with various sexual references and images. Countless TV shows and movies glamorize the hook-up culture. Why is everyone so shocked to learn that there's sexual abuse in this industry?
As a society, we act as if we have no moral compass and then are surprised when people act in such inappropriate ways. This needs to stop.
I sincerely hope that anyone who has experienced sexual abuse/harassment, on either the giving or receiving end, gets the help they need. For a full list of resources available to those seeking help, visit https://www.nsvrc.org/organizations.

Thursday, January 11, 2018

Hollywood Hypocrisy Part 1: Ginuwine's Right to Choose

According to BET, R&B star Ginuwine recently declined to kiss a fellow housemate on Celebrity Big Brother UK. Normally, this kind of thing would probably not be a huge deal. However, this particular housemate, India Willoughby, is a trans woman. This little detail is why many are now accusing Ginuwine of being trans-phobic.
I'm going to be totally honest, I'm not really into R&B music or reality TV, so a controversy like this is not something I would usually pay attention to or care about. The only reason I'm posting about this is because I am tired of Hollywood, liberals, and all of their hypocrisy.
The people that are currently calling out Ginuwine for his so-called "transphobia" are the same ones constantly yelling about choice and consent. There is constant talk about how people should be allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies. When it comes to sexual behaviors/activities, yes, consent is extremely important. So why was it so horrible for Ginuwine to refuse to kiss someone he wasn't comfortable kissing?
What makes this debate especially interesting is the fact that Ginuwine told Willoughby he would not date her BEFORE she tried to kiss him. Isn't that considered some form of harassment? In light of all the recent sexual harassment allegations in Hollywood, and the #metoo movement, you would think more people would be upset about Willoughby's behavior than Ginuwine's.
I think it's important for us to analyze situations a little bit more before we take to Twitter to react.
Feel free to leave a comment or send me email and share your thoughts on this.