Being Pro-Life Without Being A Jerk

     When it comes to the topic of abortion, you usually see people who are either passionately for “safe and legal” abortion, or passionately against all abortion. There are very few people who are indifferent on the topic. What also seems to be hard to find are people who are on opposite sides of the debate who can have a civil conversation about it. There tends to be a lot of name-calling and/or graphic images. It becomes more about being right than actually helping women, which does not help either cause. Personally, I am very pro-life, but even I am appalled at the behavior of some fellow pro-lifers.

            Whether it’s at the March For Life, outside an abortion clinic, or on social media, many pro-life advocates use a lot of name-calling and graphic images to try and make their point. They will call women baby killers and murderers while holding up gory photos of aborted babies. This sort of behavior does more harm than good. First of all, it shames a woman who is already struggling. Secondly, it makes the whole pro-life movement look bad. This inappropriate behavior is so common, many of those on the pro-choice side use it to argue against the pro-life movement.

            I recently did a little research and reached out to some people to find some suggestions of how those counseling and praying on the sidewalks could conduct themselves in order to better represent what the pro-life movement is really about.

            The first person I thought to contact was Abby Johnson. Abby is a former Planned Parenthood clinic director who became a pro-life advocate after witnessing an ultrasound-guided abortion. She now runs a non-profit, And Then There Were None, that helps those working in the abortion industry to leave. Between running a non-profit, traveling to speaking engagements, and being a mother of eight children, Abby is kept pretty busy, so her website offers helpful answers to many questions she often gets, including how to behave as a sidewalk counselor. She advises against using inflammatory language, such as calling the clinics death chambers and slaughterhouses and calling the women murderers. You need to show love and compassion, offer resources if the woman decides to choose life, and show that you genuinely care. Abby also states that “if you are on the sidewalk and feel anger in your heart, then just leave.”

            Next, I reached out to a friend of mine, who will remain anonymous, that volunteers as a patient escort at a Planned Parenthood clinic. Recently, a pro-life protester on the sidewalk outside the same clinic posted a video where she harassed my friend and gave out her personal information, including her real name, her Facebook name (that is different from her real name for a reason), and where she works (the video was reported to Facebook, but apparently “didn’t violate community standards”). I asked her if there was anything she saw those on the sidewalk doing that was peaceful and non-threatening.

            My friend began her answer by pointing out that simply having a presence on the sidewalk can be intimidating to the patients. The ones she typically does not mind are the ones that are respectful of clinic property and simply pray. She also gave an example of a group she recently interacted with that were from out of town. They spoke to her as a person about the love and forgiveness of Christ, and they even offered her cookies.

            What does bother my friend is when people bring the graphic signs. Like she said before, simply having a presence on the sidewalk is intimidating enough, the graphic images just add to that and make it worse. It also is very frustrating when people bring their kids to the sidewalk with them. One reason for that is because people tend to not watch the kids and risk them running out into the street. People also often bring their kids to use them as props to make the women coming to the clinic feel guilty. All my friend wants is for those on the sidewalk to simply follow the “golden rule” and think, what would Jesus do? Would he offer prayers and assistance or shout at and intimidate them?

            Lastly, I reached out to Students For Life. The response I got back came from their Programs Director, Mary Briganti. She offered a ton of suggestions. First, she said a sidewalk counselor’s three main jobs are to 1. Minister to the needs of abortion-minded women and encourage them to choose life, 2. Pray for the lives lost within the abortion facility, and 3. Encourage abortion workers to leave the industry. She also told me about Sidewalk Advocates For Life and their 5 Point Method (1. Smile and greet in love, 2. Give literature and explain the help, 3. Ask and listen to her, 4. Solve the perceived problem, and 5. Empower her to leave.)

            Mary reminded me that it is also important to try and engage with clinic workers, not just patients, because if there are no clinic workers, there can be no abortion clinics, but you need to treat them with love, compassion, and respect as well. Her recommendations for reaching out to workers are 1. Always smile and greet in love, 2. Offer resources like abortionworker.com that will help them leave the industry, 3. If met with hostility, always be polite, gracious, and positive. 4. If faced with aggression, remember you are on a public sidewalk and are legally allowed to be there, 5. Pray for their conversion. If you’d like to see an example, I recommend watching the movie Unplanned and observing how Marilisa and Shawn interact with Abby.

            For more information and training on being a sidewalk counselor, visit https://sidewalkadvocates.org/ and/or https://www.studentsforlifehq.com/products/take-down-the-abortion-industry/categories/1180104/posts/5503309

Visiting Universal Studios During The COVID-19 Pandemic

Last week, I went with my boyfriend's family to visit the Universal theme parks (Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure) in Orlando, Florida. A lot of people probably think we're crazy for going to Florida, where they have over 300,000 confirmed COVID cases (and counting), especially to a theme park, during this pandemic. However, we spent a week in Orlando, including four days in the Universal parks, and we all managed to make it home without coming down with the virus.
I'm not one of those people who thinks COVID-19 doesn't exist. The point of this post is simply to point out that it is possible to still live our lives while also being safe. It's also to help explain what it's like in a theme park during this pandemic.
Universal has several rules/guidelines in place to help you have fun while also being safe.
1. Wear a mask. All guests and employees must wear a mask/face covering while in the park. There are a few areas marked as "U Rest" areas where you are allowed to sit and remove your mask. You may also remove it in park restaurants when you are seated at your table. Other than that, masks must be worn at all times. If you remove it or pull it down, staff members will remind you to keep it on, including on rides. This includes the Hogwarts Express. On the train, your party is seated in their own private cabin, but you are still required to keep your mask on. You are under video surveillance, so staff will know if you take it off and will come speak to you about it.
2. Temperature checks. Before entering the park, all guests must go through a temperature check. They say that guests with a temperature of 100.4 or higher will not be admitted. Contactless forehead thermometers are used for these temperature checks.
3. Social distancing. Everyone is expected to practice social distancing. While waiting in line, there are blue lines on the ground to mark where each party can wait. If there is not an available blue line in front of you, you are not to move forward. On rides, only every other row is used. For theater-type attractions and shows (i.e. Bourne Stuntactular and Shrek 4-D), they still only use every other row and make sure there are at least 3 empty seats between each party.
4. Hand Sanitizer. Before each ride, staff members squirt hand sanitizer in each guest's hands. No, it's not optional. There is also hand sanitizer available after most rides. That one is optional, but I still highly recommend using it.
5. Contactless ordering. This part was particularly frustrating for us. At in-park restaurants, you must order your food and drinks through the Universal mobile app. Once you submit your order, the app gives you an order number that you then tell waitstaff so they know which table to bring it to. The first time we tried ordering, as we were submitting the order, the app crashed and deleted/cancelled the order forcing us to start over.
6. Restrooms will close periodically. Due to the need for increased sanitation, restrooms in the parks close periodically for cleaning/disinfecting. They don't all close at once, so don't worry. If one restroom is closed, cleaning staff are happy to tell you where the next closest one is.
A few other notable things:
1. Less people, less wait time. One of the best things I noticed during our visit to the parks was the super low wait times for rides. Due to the pandemic, many people are avoiding traveling and visiting busy places like theme parks, and I don't blame them. This means there are less people in the parks and the lines are much shorter than they would typically be this time of year. Rides I waited an hour or more for on my last trip several years ago I only waited maybe 15 minutes for this time. I think the longest we waited in line for a ride was maybe 30-40 minutes.
2. Buy 2 Days, Get 2 Free. Universal currently has a deal where you can buy a 2-day ticket and get two extra days for free. Tickets must be purchased by August 13th, but you have until December 17th, 2021 to use them. All 4 days do not have to be consecutive, but you must use them within a 7 day period, meaning after your first day, you have six days left to use your remaining 3 days. I highly recommend spacing your days out a bit. Four consecutive days in the parks can be exhausting.
3. Hagrid's Magical Creatures Motorbike Adventure. This roller coaster is still pretty new and demand to ride is very high. Because of this, you are required to reserve a spot in the "virtual line" through the Universal app. We were not aware of this at first and tried to just walk up and get in line like every other ride only to be informed that 1. the ride was down at the moment and 2. we had to reserve a spot. I recommend reserving your spot first thing in the morning when you arrive (you can only do so when on park grounds), otherwise you may not get to ride it. We were never able to get a spot. It's also important to note that the app showed the ride being down several times, which delayed all reservation times and may have contributed to the lack of availability. Also be aware that the "virtual line" does not mean you'll get on the ride faster when you get to this roller coaster. Every time we walked by during any of the specified times (if it was actually running at the time), the line stretched well into the Lost Continent section of the park.
4. Character meet and greets. Universal has found a way to still allow for character interactions and photos while social distancing. Characters stand on platforms and there are blue marks on the ground six feet away, similar to the ones used for attraction lines, where you may stand for photos and conversation. Character visits and photo-ops aren't rare or limited either. Over the course of our 4 days we met Patrick (from Spongebob), the Penguins of Madagascar, The Cat in The Hat (with Thing One and Thing Two), the Grinch, Captain America, and Spider-Man. We saw several other characters we didn't take photos with as well.
5. If you're going to ride water rides, bring an extra mask. If you plan to ride any water rides, especially Popeye & Pluto's Bilge-Rat Barges, bring an extra mask as the one you are wearing will likely get wet. The only water ride where we were told we could remove our masks was the Jurassic Park River Adventure (and you can't remove it until you are settled on the ride, so there's still a chance it could get wet).

Overall, our trip to Universal was an awesome experience. I'm very thankful to Universal and their staff for working so hard to keep everyone safe without taking away from the fun.

J.K. Rowling and Basic Biology

Recently, J.K. Rowling has come under fire for a thread of tweets that have been deemed "transphobic." A few days ago, she shared an article on Twitter with the title "Creating a more equal post-COVID-19 world for people who menstruate," along with the comment "People who menstruate.’ I’m sure there used to be a word for those people. Someone help me out. Wumben? Wimpund? Woomud?"
The SJWs of the internet have been having a field day with Rowling's comments, calling her transphobic and saying she needs to educate herself. Their reasoning behind their crusade is that trans-women are women, although they don't menstruate, and trans-men are men, and many of them do menstruate, so her comments weren't inclusive. Rowling followed her original comment with a thread of comments about the issues that arise when people start refusing to acknowledge biological sex.
What people don't seem to understand is that she is speaking strictly about biology. Regardless of one's gender identity and whatever they have going on psychologically, there are still only two biological sexes with only two reproductive systems, male and female. Only those with a female reproductive system have the ability to menstruate. Now, that's not to say that every biological female menstruates, there are plenty of medical reasons why some may not be able to, but we won't get into that.
The point of Rowling's tweets was that biological sex is real. If we pretend it doesn't exist, we erase the struggles and experiences of multiple populations. "If sex isn't real, there's no same-sex attraction," that erases the struggles and experiences of homosexuals. She also pointed out it is completely okay to acknowledge that your life has been shaped by being the sex that you are. The existence of biological sex isn't hateful and it does affect our lives in various ways, whether we like it or not.
To quote Ben Shapiro, "Facts don't care about your feelings."

A Breakdown of My Views on Current BLM Protests

I don't think I need to tell you that there are Black Lives Matter (BLM) protests going on right now. That's all we see on the news and on social media. I don't know about you, but my social media feeds have been full of a wide range of views on said protests and the issues the protests are about. To be honest, it can all be a little overwhelming and very confusing. I have a lot of thoughts about it all myself, so I'll try to break my views on the matter down a little bit.

Initial Reactions:

1. Black lives DO matter. Regardless of our differing views on the protests and BLM movement as a whole, I think we can all agree on that. Nobody deserves to be murdered, regardless of race, sexuality, gender, etc. Personally, I am pro-life, and adamantly so. You can't be pro-life without believing in the dignity and sanctity of ALL human life. 

2. You have every right to be angry. I'm angry too. It's a completely reasonable emotional response.

3. You have every right to protest. It is a constitutional right. It doesn't matter what you are protesting, why, or if anyone agrees with you, it is a right given to every U.S. citizen.

4. Burning your cities down isn't solving anything. Now, before anyone comes at me about this, yes, I am aware that in many cases it's outside groups, not associated with BLM, that do this and that people involved in BLM have asked them to stop. However, it's still happening and needs to be addressed. Regardless of what side you are on, setting fires, throwing bricks in windows, or whatever other violent acts people choose to commit, is not ok. I'm not ashamed to quote an old Hannah Montana episode here and say, "When you fight fire with fire, you just get a bigger fire." The more you do that, the harder it is to take you seriously.

5. Threatening the livelihood and safety of innocents is NEVER okay. I get that that's kind of the point these protesters are trying to make. Innocent people are getting killed by police and that's not okay either, but again, stop fighting fire with fire.

6. The media needs to chill. A lot of this division on the issue is sparked by the media. I have seen far too many news reports on George Floyd's past and what illegal activity may or may not have been going down when he was initially arrested. None of that excuses the fact that he was murdered. I have also seen far too many reports on the violence occurring during protests and not enough on the peaceful protests that are often seen in participants' live steams on Facebook. Maybe if there were more reports on the good instead of the bad, people, myself included, would be less conflicted.

I also think that the media needs to approach this as more of a general human rights issue. Now, I'm not trying to minimize the struggles African Americans have faced and try to take their platform away with an "all lives matter" argument. All I'm saying is a human was unjustly killed by a police officer while three others stood there and watched, and there's video to prove it. That should really be all we need to know to be upset about it. When they constantly emphasize the races of those involved, it seems to me like it just fuels the fire.

7. It's not everyone. What I mean here is that on both sides of the argument, there's a lot of generalization. Because of the actions of a handful of corrupt cops, people are saying all cops are bad, and because of the actions of small groups of protesters, people are saying all protesters are looters and rioters. This is simply not true on either side. I have friends who are cops and friends who are protesting. Due to these generalizations, there seem to be all sorts of threats coming from all angles, and I really do worry for their safety. 

8. No, this is not like the Boston Tea Party. At the Boston Tea Party, the people were angry about the unfair tax on tea without having gotten a say in it. What did they do? They dumped the tea in the harbor. In our current situation, we have a group of people angry that a cop in Minnesota murdered an unarmed man while three others watched. Now, I'm obviously not saying to do dump the Minneapolis police in the harbor. What I am saying is take your protests to the source. Go protest at the police department, hopefully in a peaceful way. Don't go around hurting innocent people and destroying innocent businesses.

Some Questions and Suggestions:

1. Who is leading this? A priest I follow on Twitter recently pointed out that one issue with these protests is that there doesn't seem to be a designated leader. Considering what has happened to such leaders in the past, it's understandable that someone may be hesitant to take on such a role. However, it's just hard to follow what's happening when there are so many different people approaching it from different angles.

2. What is the objective? Make it clear. We get it, black lives matter. We're not denying that. Now what? Be more specific about what you want from these protests. These marches are being led by different people/groups in different cities saying different things. If your goal is to convince your specific area of a specific thing, then keep doing what you're doing. However, if your goal is to change something in the whole country, it should be made a bit more clear what exactly you want changed. Do you simply want people to see you and be reminded that black lives matter? Do you want white people to somehow apologize and make up for the fact that slavery happened in America? Do you want more/better training for police officers? Do you want the police to get less funding? Do you want to get rid of the police altogether? These are all things I've heard various sections of the movement say they want. Which is it?

3. Reach out to your leaders and representatives. Once you have your objective clarified, start calling and emailing the people on charge who can do something about it. I suggest you start with your local mayor and/or city council and work your way up.

4. Vote. If the people currently in office aren't acting as they should to represent you, vote them out and vote for someone who will get the job done. 

There's only so much that holding up signs, screaming/chanting in the street, and changing your profile picture on Facebook to a black square can accomplish. If you want real change, you need to decide what you want changed and put in the work to get it done, and by work I mean starting/signing petitions, contacting government officials, and voting, not breaking windows and setting things on fire.

Let People Feel Things!

Alright y'all, I've had something on my mind for a few days and I've got to get it out. This may get a bit rant-y, so bear with me.

Due to this virus, life has basically come to a halt for most people. School has been cancelled, for the rest of the year in some places, which means field trips, proms, and graduations have also been cancelled. A lot of other things have been cancelled that people are upset about (concerts, recitals, festivals, etc.), and people have very right to be upset about those too, myself included, but my main focus here is going to be on school.

A lot of kids are in their last year of whatever level of school they are in. A lot of things happen in those last years, trips, dances, graduations, etc., and these kids won't get to experience those events. They have been looking forward to these moments all year, maybe more for some of them. They've worked hard to get where they are now. They deserve to celebrate these milestones. Now that all of that has been cancelled, these kids are heartbroken and they have every right to be. I know I would be.

What is really getting me is the older people on Facebook saying how kids today shouldn't be as upset as they are about their events and milestones being cancelled because at least they're only being asked to stay home on the couch and not being drafted and sent off to a war they may not come back from. I even saw a comment from one woman stating that we need to bring the draft back because "a lot of young people are lazy and on drugs." What? 

I'm really sick of these "I suffered, so you have to suffer" and "don't complain because some else has/had it worse" mentalities. That's like saying don't be happy or excited about things because someone else has it better than you. Just stop. Let people feel their feelings about things. Let the kids grieve the loss of their school year. Have some compassion and be supportive.

This is a hard time for pretty much everyone. The least we can do is be kind to each other and stop being to condescending. 

A Prayer in Uncertain Times

I don't need to tell you what is currently going on in the world. It's on every channel and every website. A lot of people are very worried and scared. I think what a lot of us could use right now is a prayer.

Tonight I'm praying:

For those most vulnerable to the virus

For everyone who is sick

For their doctors, nurses, and other caretakers

For the doctors and scientists working around the clock to sort this whole mess out

For the students and teachers navigating online learning for the first time

For the students whose safe place is at school who are now stuck at home

For the students who rely on free/reduced breakfast and lunch from school who are facing food insecurity

For the retail employees facing the masses of panic shoppers

For everyone to maintain their faith, patience, and sanity in all of this uncertainty

Last, but not least, I pray that this all blows over soon and we can get back to normal life and routines